Celebrate! There's no one in this universe that is exactly like you. You are unique! Not your personality nor your genes are exactly the same with someone else's. Know and accept thyself, and to thine own self be true!
Identify your limitations and improve
your positive areas. Don't force yourself to be someone you are not and
cannot be. Don't confuse yourself with the flooding consumer products
around you and tailor yourself according to trends or fashion that would
alter your personality. What's on trend may not work for you, and may,
eventually, make you look and feel funny. More so, it may not last for what's
your money's worth. Be careful when you choose to wear trends that do not speak to your soul in pursuit for beauty and
gaining attraction. What really matters is that what we wear or use will
give us confidence and enhance us. Be the person that is entirely you and responsible enough for your development.
notice, fashion is a cycle. So never throw out items that you love even
if it means not wearing them for awhile and its taking up your
time, money and/or space keeping them from mice and cockroaches. What
you've painfully preserved and kept for a lifetime or so will one day
surprise you as it will become fashionable again at some point in the fashion world anyone over 25 knows this is true!.
The fashion world is
periodically experiencing a retro/recycle and there you are with a wardrobe full of
original retro/vintage pieces, which you can easily coordinate with what's on
the trend and makes you spend less, or nothing at all. All you need is a
little imagination and ingenuity. You'll see that each time you wear
an old piece it's a revelation and will inspire you for the day.
fashion style icon is more than just following trends and it doesn't mean you have to be famous either. It's mostly
about just being your stylish self, the unique and original you.
You can equip your wardrobe through the years with things that best fit
your budget and personality, reflect your personality, and
speak silently of who you are without being hassled. Trust your intuition as you look at yourself in the mirror.
truth is, we do not know how we are perceived by others and it doesn't even matter because self confidence is the key!. Definitely, we
would like others to see us as beautiful, smart, secure and confident, yet when it comes to qualifying what is seen as
beautiful there are unending claims as to what is the definition of beauty! It chnages endlessly in the media and to my mind "Beauty will always remain in the eye of the beholder!".
When beauty is perceived by the first impression it
earns, it is also most often qualified when looked at from the viewers
point of view. Idealists who struggles on identifying what is beautiful
and what is not usually look at beauty as something that comes from
within i.e something innate not just looks!.
Do you feel that you are not beautiful enough?
If you ever do recognize that there is one Supreme Being that gives us inspiration in
declaring that all his creation was made perfect!. Yes that's true, you can take it to the bank!
Wake up daily and strive for your own perfection!. There are values
we have grown up with that we sometimes forget to apply when situations are presented
in front of us. Everyday is a gift and a chance to renew ourselves and
exercise the lessons we often overlook.
First, remember to be honest,
courteous, helpful, polite: say please , thank you, and sorry. These are
elementary and oftentimes overlooked values that when exercised constantly, work wonders and become second nature. If you find these too basic, just imagine
when the same are not done for you.
Second, smile. Smiling is very
powerful. It's proven effective on both the smiler and the smilee. It
won't cost you a penny and it works wonders on getting results!, you'll earn friends that smile back at you,
enough to make your dayand load lighter. Try it and find out what difference a
smile can make.
Third, listen. It may be to your advantage of learning
from the speaker rather than telling others what you know and you won't
realize how much comfort you can give to another by just listening to
what s/he is letting off.
Fourth, pay compliment. Ever hear the phrase, "Flattery will get you everywhere!" well it;s true! You will feel secure and
confident by giving away a sense of self-confidence and security to
Fifth, work according to the golden rule, "Do unto others as you'd like done unto You!"
If all of us could abide by this, what a different world we may be living in right now.
Finally, live according to your budget. I know that it's hard and I struggle with this myself! because we're surrounded by soo much stuff and there's always something new on the market. Try to buy only what is needed amd what you can afford when you
wish to upgrade your wardrobe and be truthful, thoughtful about
considering clothes, jewelry and accessories. Overspending may rob you of your
peaceful nights' sleep and ruin your self-confidence and yiu may not enjoy your purchases, even worse there's the dreaded buyers remorse!.These timeless
values will always carry you through earning the appreciation and
respect of those around you who really care about you and you may save money too!.
Don't worry about the ups and downs of trends and fashion. Upgrade your
wardrobe as far as your budget allows. Just be yourself and surround
yourself or find yourself in the company of people you want to
be, people who you can learn from, folks you admire. Strive to sport a personality that could bring smiles and laughter,
attract positivity, look confident and secure, win friends. Wear a
smile to be forever be on trend. You are what fashion is all about.
If somehow you feel insufficient, read and research and don't be afraid to ask for help. There are numerous
books on self help yourself with and the internet is flooded with
useful information which may be just right for you and what you need.
balanced personality with discipline, dedication, determination and
persistence. Be aware of choices that may have put you in doubtful
circumstances. Take action on the information that best suits your
Remember that you if you keep doing the same things you'll keep getting the same results. Here's to being yourself no matter what your style is!
26 Oct 2013
11 Aug 2013
Did I live?
Did I love?
Did I matter?
Would you be able to give a resounding YES! to each of them?
Even though it’s scary, sometimes we need to be reminded that we are not immortal and that life can be fleeting, slipping through our fingers before we know it. No matter how young or how old we are, we need to make the best of it now.
So ask yourself these questions today (inspired by Brendon Burchard):
1. Did I live?
Did I live without fear? Did I challenge myself everyday and push myself out of my comfort zone? Did I embrace my own uniqueness and authenticity without consideration of how anyone would judge me? Did I attempt to go after my dreams? Did I make my mark on this world?
If you are not doing these things, start living today by:
- Savoring each special moment you have with someone, whether it be a friend, loved one, or a stranger
- Focusing on the present and not fearing the future nor regretting the past
- Putting things in perspective. We dwell so much on the minute, negative aspects of our lives when at the end of the day, they don’t really matter all that much
- Being in the present and enjoying the soft breeze tickling your skin or dancing to that song on your iPod that never fails to get you up and grooving
- Facing your fears, however small or large
- Traveling the world
- Finding the courage within you to believe in your dreams and go after them
I know I have lived when I can face my fears everyday with the belief that I have nothing to lose.
2. Did I love?
Did I love passionately? Did I love effortlessly, without reservation, and without holding back? Did I love without fear of the consequences and give myself fully to those whom I loved?
Even in relationships that have ended, there were beautiful moments. So start loving today by:
- Savoring each precious moment between you and the other person
- Appreciating every butterfly in your stomach
- Letting your heart expand with love for your friends, family, and significant other
- Relishing every touch, kiss, smile, whisper of affection, and every contented sigh that love brings us
- Falling for someone foolishly and uninhibitedly
- Loving unconditionally
I know I've loved when I’ve fallen for someone even if I ended up losing them in the end.
3. Did I matter?
Did I make a difference in this world? Did I help others? Did I make others smile, laugh, or tremble with joy?
Start mattering today by:
- Making someone’s day by giving them a compliment or helping a disabled person cross the street
- Following your dreams and harnessing your skills and abilities to make a difference in the world. The world needs your special talents!
- Doing what you love. Life is too short to do anything less
- Playing your part in saving the planet and its inhabitants. Plant a tree. Recycle that bottle. Adopt a rescued animal at your local shelter.
- Touching someone’s soul and lifting their spirits. Listen to them. Hold them. Help them. Be there for them.
I know I have mattered to each person I’ve helped, awakening the incredible power within them to feel empowered to go out into the world and create the life they’ve always wanted.
It is never too late to go back and start fresh and anew. It is never too late to find the courage and commitment within yourself to do something different in order to create the life you’ve always dreamed of. You only need to take the first step.
If you are having trouble figuring out that first step, don’t be afraid to ask for help from the Universe or a trusted mentor or coach. Share with them your deepest dreams, desires, and longings. You deserve to live the best life possible, so start today!
7 Aug 2013
You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.
We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier. The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.
Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps which I use to overcome procrastination with great success. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:
- Break your work into little steps. Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as – (1) Research (2) Deciding the topic (3) Creating the outline (4) Drafting the content (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10, (6) Revision (7) etc, suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.
- Change your environment. Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace. One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.
- Create a detailed timeline with specific deadlines. Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late. Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act. My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.
- Eliminate your procrastination pit-stops. If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate. Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you. I know some people will out of the way and delete/deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic/extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.
- Hang out with people who inspire you to take action. I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs/Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies. Identify the people/friends/colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too. As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email/social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.
- Get a buddy. Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other. I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.
- Tell others about your goals. This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects. For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.
- Seek out someone who has already achieved the outcome. What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.
- Re-clarify your goals. If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that. Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not,what can you do about it?
- Stop over-complicating things. Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything. Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.
- Get a grip and just do it. At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day. Reality check: I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future. Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.
6 Aug 2013
Open up your life and mind to new possibilities, don't get stuck in a rut, challenge yourself with new experiences! in meeting new people you'll be surprised at what you could learn from people who you may not feel are "People Like You" folks who you would not chose to hang out with on an ordinary day.
Never tell yourself that you're too old or embarrassed to learn something new. More often than not we are too embarrassed to try new things for fear of looking stupid, messing up, failing etc but the truth is in my experience that fear prevents us from growing! It curbs are learning process and natural progression!
If we believe, which I do that we are all born to greatness, and that we all have our particular unique strengths which we've been gifted with. If we give in to fear and are not open to new learning we may miss vital experiences and opportunities for personal growth by either believing that "we know it all" or by being content in our current state, for fear of upsetting the apple cart!
This is my truth, I embrace new possibilities and continue to believe that the sky is the limit when it comes to achievement. I reach for the stars because I desire their brightness. I'm open to new knowledge, ideas and possibilities because I have not even scratched the surface of what I need to know as a human being. I desire the kindness of strangers because it helps me believe that there is still goodness in this world despite the negativity that's happening in and around the world. I believe in Love because it still makes the world go round and when hearts unite in love for good amazing things happen!. This is not just my romantic notion, remember Live Aid, Live 8 and Hope For Haiti!.
Believe in Learning and remember that learning, is getting to know that thing which you never knew you didn't know!
2 Aug 2013
Many people enter the world of blogging with a strong opinions and a lot to say and these are key ingredients in making yourself a successful blogger.But there is a skill involved in transferring these great ideas in your mind to interesting posts on your blog.
After blogging for many years I have learned that a computer keyboard in the wrong hands can lead to disaster.This was true for me when i first started blogging, many posts were wild rants with no direction.
Like my old school report cards the message was clear 'Must Try Harder'.Putting pen to paper or fingers to keys and expressing yourself in a manner people will want to read is actually not too hard once you keep a few key factors in mind.
These were the 'Rules Of Thumb' I applied to writing blog posts.
1. Keep It Fresh - While you will want to write on a variety of topics try to publish lots of posts on current issues.This doesn't mean write about current topics in the news but rather the hot topics in your niche (Main Subject You Write About).People always remember where they heard something first so were possible be the one breaking the news or reviewing the latest products.
2. Speak Your Mind - Don't sit on the fence trying not to offend anyone, it's your blog and blogs are about opinion.Readers love blogs because they are different to regular websites and have personality.It's that very personality that will decide if your blog is 'a stud or a dud' in the blogisphere.
3. Get to the point - Even the most active souls become lazy and have short attention spans when sat in front of the computer screen.You don't have long to impress so let the reader know were you plan on going with the post early, and once your opinion or message is made wrap it up.You can mix in some longer posts by using the Killer Blog Post And Filler Blog Post method.
4. Think Of The Search Engines - Format your blog posts in a way the search engines will like as much as your readers.Add keywords for your chosen niche in the title of the post and in the opening paragraphs.Keywords are words people may search for, so think what search terms might lead someone to your post and more importantly what words do you want your post to be indexed under.Add these words and phrases to your post and take control of how Google and other search engines see your blog.But don't over do it, too many keywords can do more harm than good.
5. Keep Readers On Your Blog - In the closing paragraph ask for readers opinions in the comments, also make sure to add a link to another post on your blog that is on a similar topic.This will keep them busy and hopefully turn passers by into regular visitors.
You can make a Blog That Rocks, it's the little things that make all the difference.
In addition to the advice that Paul has given I would also add that it's important to be yourself; because we all have a unique voice, regardless of how different you think/believe you are, there will always be someone out there that understands exactly where your coming from and share your perspective.
And remember to have fun with it!